What exactly is 24/7...

So we got through our first week living together without killing each other – that’s gotta be a good thing, don’t you think?

To be honest I think J’s found it harder adjusting to living with my two dogs than he has to living with me – but hey, we’re a package deal, so he’ll have to get used to it! They’re not big dogs, just small ones, but one’s a grumpy old soul that I got from an animal shelter 4 years ago – he really is grumpy, he lies around and grumbles to himself most of the time – and the other one is nearly 6 months old, so she’s still in her mad puppy phase and loves sprinting around aimlessly and trying to chew on peoples noses. Lol.

Anyway, moving in with J got me thinking about the whole 24/7 D/s thing, and what it really means. Several people have commented to me about moving in together helping to develop the 24/7 aspect of our relationship, and I wonder if some people, especially those not heavily involved in “the scene” really understand what that means.

I must admit, 5-7 years ago, when I was a real bdsm newbie, I didn’t understand what it meant. I thought 24/7 meant slave. Walk around all day with a collar and chain, doing all the chores and any other task requested, completely losing yourself and your identity in the process. (Not saying that’s a bad thing if that’s what you’re into or what you want!!).

And on one hand, I guess it is.

However, I’d like to think that on some level, and to some degree, I’m a 24/7 submissive, and that’s not me at all. So there must be a different side to it.

And I think there is – when I dress in the morning, I dress with J’s approval in mind, this is one part of our relationship that has and will be improved by the living situation, as now I can actually get his approval almost every day. And I like doing little random things throughout the day to please him or bring a smile to his face, or just make his life easier, whether it be making him some lunch, tidying something up so it doesn’t get in his way, or just fluffing his pillow before he gets into bed to make it more comfortable for him. These little things show that I’m always in submissive mode in one form or another, which I think makes me a little bit 24/7, even if I’m not always on my knees with my head bowed down awaiting my next order.

Having said all of that, what I have found, not only since I moved in, but before that during our 18 months together, is that I’m not expected to be a doormat and to do everything all the time. J loves to cook, he likes doing his share of cooking the evening meals, and he’ll even bring me a delicious breakfast in bed sometimes, for no reason whatsoever. He even washes the dishes, or cleans the oven, and the various other horrible tasks that life thrusts upon us.

I’m not a house-slave, and our relationship is on a fairly even keel on things like this. Does this mean we’re not 24/7, or does it mean we’re a new kind of 24/7? Or does it just mean we’re a couple of crazy kids in love, who want to make the other happy, no matter what type of relationship we’re in, but we just so happen to be a D/s couple?

It just begs the question, what is 24/7, or is there even a definition for it? Or maybe we shouldn’t try and pigeon-hole ourselves and just be the best person we can be – be ourselves, be unique, be original!!

That’s all from me for today, except for reminding you all that we are contactable by e-mail as well as through our blog comments etc, so if anyone wants to drop either myself, J, or both of us a line, just to say hello, make a private comment, or just to chat about common interests etc, then please feel free, the address is blogslut13@yahoo.co.uk

Bye for now, take care. Blogslut xx