The Promiscuous Reputation

Over the years, in various places, I have been known to garnish a reputation of promiscuity – aka, people think I’m a slut! Part of me doesn’t mind the reputation, after all, what does it matter what other people think of me? The other part of me has always hated the reputation though, more so on the basis that I don’t believe it to be true!! I guess I could probably take it if it were true, but like I said, part of me hates the fact people may think of me like that when it isn’t true.

Am I “sexually adventurous”? Yes, very much so, I’ll try anything at least once. Does that make me a slut? Okay, a little bit yes on that one, but in the good way (a bedroom go getter), not the bad way, and it certainly doesn’t make me promiscuous, which is the common association with slutiness.

Am I a bit of a flirt and a tease? More than a bit most probably, but yes, I very much am. But once again, even with all the slutty connotations that go with that, one of those connotations ISN’T promiscuity.

So how do all these promiscuous rumours start?

I’m in a relationship with a guy, I show a willingness to give, and a skill at giving, blow jobs. He tells his friend of this. This friend tells another friend that I’m a slut.

I’m in another relationship with a different guy, we try anal sex. He tells his friend of this. This friend tells another friend that I’m a slut.

Like I said, all of that makes me sexually adventurous, it doesn’t necessarily make me a slut, and it certainly doesn’t make me promiscuous, which is what people think when they hear the word slut.

In my entire life, I’ve had full sex with 19 guys. A high number for a 25 year old? Perhaps you could say that, but I don’t think so in this day and age!

And I can honestly say that 15 of these have officially had boyfriend status by the time they got into my underwear, and kept boyfriend status for at least a while afterwards as well. Only 2 can be categorized in the “one night stand” section of my conquest book. 1 was a multiple partner experience with a previous Dom boyfriend (yes, I know that doesn’t help the “I’m not a slut” argument!), and the final 1 to take me up to that figure of 19, well… that one was complicated!!

So as you can see this certainly disproves any theory of me being a slut who jumps from one guys bed to the next. But I’ll be the first to admit that it fully proves that I did have a tendancy to jump from one relationship to another, and although I had some degree of feelings for each of my boyfriends, some were well short of love.

So if you want to jump into bed with me and never see me again, the answer is a big NO!

But if you want to go to dinner and a movie with me on a regular basis for a couple of months or more and see what feelings develop, then sure, I’ll have sex with you!

So I've come to the conclusion, based on the connotations of promiscuity that people get from the word "slut", then I’m not a sex slut, I’m a relationship slut!!